My impression of my wife was wrong, and I donā€™t feel like Iā€™m special to her

q&a with geoff Jul 28, 2020

Question

I just barely found out that my wife had been promiscuous with her neighbor right before we began dating. She had just divorced her husband, and in a matter of days, she was already involved with someone else. I really had hoped that this ā€œchurch girlā€ I thought I was married to was not so promiscuous as Iā€™ve now learned she was in her younger ...

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Q&A with Geoff: What is the difference between helping and being used?

q&a with geoff Jul 23, 2020

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Is there a dividing line between loving or helping our neighbor and being taken advantage of? Our neighbor drives old cars and calls us whenever he breaks down, even in the middle of the night. My husband always goes and helps him, but Iā€™m starting to feel we are being used.

Answer

Youā€™re asking an important question that confronts all of us ...

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Q&A with Geoff: How can my husband and I get out of our ā€˜feast and famineā€™ pattern?

q&a with geoff Jul 17, 2020

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Our relationship seems to always be feast or famine. Weā€™ve talked about it on multiple occasions, yet we continue to be stuck in this pattern. Surely it must be indicative of something. It certainly doesnā€™t seem healthy, even for a marriage recovering from betrayal. What can we do?Ā 

As an example, in terms of physical intimacy we might go stay...

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Q&A with Geoff: Should I expect to know my husband's phone code?

q&a with geoff Jul 16, 2020

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After 25 years of marriage, my husband put a code on his phone and wonā€™t let me know it. Itā€™s now been 11 months, and whenever I say anything about it, he gets upset. When he initially did it, he said itā€™s either going to make or break the marriage, but heā€™s prepared for any outcome. This really hurts. How should I handle it?Ā 

Answer

Itā€™s und...

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Q&A with Geoff: How often should I be sexually intimate when I donā€™t feel like it?

q&a with geoff Jun 30, 2020

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I have been married to the most patient, kind, loving, gentle man Iā€™ve ever met for almost 10 years. When we first were married we were very active with our sexual intimacy, but as time has gone on and a few kids later, work, school, depression medications ā€“ I just donā€™t feel like being intimate very often. I could honestly go a month and not b...

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Q&A with Geoff: My wife is dying and I'm a mess

q&a with geoff Jun 18, 2020

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My 74 year-old wife has recently been diagnosed with cancer that has spread.Ā She is receivingĀ a lot of medical attention and care.Ā Unfortunately, it seems that this disease will ultimatelyĀ take her life.Ā 

My wife is a brave and courageous woman. She is also loved and respected by three generations. The thing is, Iā€™m not brave, and Iā€™m having t...

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Q&A with Geoff: My sister-in-law is possessive of my husband

q&a with geoff May 19, 2020

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My husbandā€™s older sister was widowed two years ago. She has no children and no other siblings. Prior to this, she would barely give my husband and me the time of day. However, since being widowed, she had bonded to us like cement!

We were there for her throughout the initial difficulties, but now my husband has made himself more than availabl...

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Q&A with Geoff: My alcoholic son refuses to honor our rules

q&a with geoff May 15, 2020

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My son is 40 years old, an alcoholic and is separated from his wife. He is also having financial issues. He can work from home, so he came home to stay with us so he can regroup. We told him he could stay, but he couldnā€™t drink in our home. Evidently, that rule was broken the first day he came.Ā 

We have helped him with his bills and moving exp...

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Q&A with Geoff: I feel like Iā€™m only a paycheck to my wife

q&a with geoff Apr 06, 2020

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My wife and I have been married for many years, and we have a large and loving family. However, our relationship has always been somewhat distant and shallow, even as newlyweds, since we dated and married fairly quickly. I have taken responsibility for this, as Iā€™ve never been good at relationships and have always defaulted to sulking and victi...

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Q&A with Geoff: How do I know if Iā€™ve found the woman I should marry?

q&a with geoff Apr 02, 2020

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I am currently in a relationship in which we have been dating for six months. A few months ago, we were talking about marriage, and there were times I felt like it could work and times where I felt sincere doubt about that choice.

Iā€™ve sought confirmation from God that itā€™s right, and Iā€™ve felt good about the relationship. I feel like there ar...

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