GEOFF STEURER, MS, LMFT

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Our son’s last visit home was filled with despair. His wife is from another country. He speaks her language and admittedly says you cannot possibly know all the nuances of a culture without growing up in it. Most of their time has been spent in her country. They have three children.

The past couple of years my son has been reaching out...

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Recently, an extended family member reached out to me. She was feeling suicidal and asking for help to leave a bad family situation. She is a young adult still living in her parents’ home, and I supported the idea of her moving out and living on her own as a healthy thing for her age.

This desire to support her increased when I learned...

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My husband was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder three years ago. He still just wants to “work on the marriage” and has a very difficult time doing any personal core work. In fact, he doesn’t go to therapy anymore. He insists that working on the marriage is all that’s needed because he’s okay with...

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I’m dating a man who was left by his wife. He says he has moved on and that he wants to marry again, but all the signs show he hasn’t moved on. He is still bitter.

Every time we argue, he is ready to let everything go and often doesn’t try to make it work. I do all the fixing, and every time we reconcile, he says he...

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It has taken me over three years of deep grief to accept my former spouse’s decision to end our 17-year marriage.

Sadly, after reading one of your columns, I am sure my actions pushed him further away and solidified his decision. My emotions have been on the surface (due to supporting him through school, his graduating, his new job...

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I am working very hard to recover from a sexual and porn addiction I’ve had since I was about 13 years old. My therapist and I are still trying to figure out what caused it. Unfortunately, I have a pretty bad memory and can’t remember what happened at a young age.

My current issue is this: I don’t want to sexualize anyone or...

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I have a 47-year-old daughter, severely disabled, both physically and mentally, with cerebral palsy. She is beautiful, has a bright smile, and loves Cookie Monster and Oscar. I cared for her at home until she was 24, then she went to live in a wonderful facility three hours away. I have visited her most every week since then. I know and love...

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My husband and I just got married seven months ago. He recently told me that he believes he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend that he dated for two years.

He says that he thinks we need to get a divorce and that it would be better for me in the long run because he doesn’t think that he is the guy for me. 

I love my husband...

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My 10-year wedding anniversary is coming up very soon, but my husband told me to leave our home, saying he doesn’t want the marriage anymore.

We have three sons who are presently with me. I’ve been away from him for the past six months, and he hasn’t called to ask how the kids are.

I am hurt because I have been emotionally...

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My 40-year-old daughter and I had a relatively good relationship until the last few months when COVID-19 changed our lives. She believes that COVID is not dangerous and we should go about our lives as before. She started homeschooling her four children so that they won’t have to wear masks because she thinks that wearing masks are...