GEOFF STEURER, MS, LMFT

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My oldest daughter, now in her mid-20s, has always been the in-charge, critical child, bossing around her younger siblings and eves me. She’s narcissistic and has a hard time understanding that anyone else has feelings aside from her, and she never thinks any of us are good enough for her.

She’s now married and lately has been...

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I’m married to a man who can’t emotionally connect with me. I have a nine out of 10 emotional meter “need,” and his need is at level one. We’ve been to counseling and it hasn’t worked.

How can I be happy in a marriage where I don’t want to have sex with my partner that I can’t connect to? I...

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My partner and I have a daughter that is almost 5. He also has a 7-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.

My issue is that I spend more time with his 7-year-old, who has a mother, yet I care for her more than he does on numerous occasions when it’s his time with her.

Caring for my child is plenty. I’d like to take it on,...

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How do I proceed from finding out that my biological father is still alive? I grew up more than four decades with little or no knowledge of my biological father and relatives. I accepted that he was deceased as I was told. I discovered that he is still alive by accepting friend requests with people I have never met having the same last name....

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All my life, I have been taught that God wants us to care for our parents in their old age. We are commanded to honor our father and mother in the 10 commandments. The Bible says that it is good and acceptable before God to requite our parents, and if you fail to do this, you have denied the faith and are worse than an infidel (1 Tim 5:3-4,...

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Several months ago, I had a pulmonary embolism and thankfully lived through it. The day this occurred I felt ill at work and ended up at the hospital. I texted my husband that morning to tell him I was getting some tests and having chest discomfort and pain but that I would keep him posted.

In his defense, I didn’t make a big deal about...

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I just found out my 11-year-old has read an inappropriate young adult novel. The novel is about 16-year-old girls who form a friendship at their shoplifters anonymous group. The book has inappropriate language and graphic sexual content. I am beyond crushed and upset.

My daughter received the book as a gift a few months ago. After reading the...

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My wife and I have been married for 25 years, and recently she refuses to do foreplay at all when we are sexually intimate. What should I do? 

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I have been married for 23 years, and during the first 10 years my husband had three affairs – that I know of. I was devastated, but we managed to stay together. I recently found out that the second affair went further than he had originally told me. This has completely destroyed me.

Why is it bothering me as if it happened yesterday?...

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This girl and I are very interested in each other. We both have a desire to be married under the premarital chastity requirements of our religion. However, we have also had similar pasts as teens and young adults involving pornography and other immoral things of that nature that will require our repentance before the marriage ceremony can...